Those things also do work for me, but it involves another setting that jclark didn’t mention. It is a very pleasant and stress free way to work, you often don’t have to press down on the trackpad at all.
@jclark, something you may not have noticed, as soon as you are orbiting you can release the keys, and lift two of your fingers. You are then gently brushing the trackpad to orbit the model, with one finger. Pressing the shift key during that time switches to panning, without having to re-press Ctrl and Command.
Here is the secret to getting the three finger part working: