This control selection highlighting is set in the Windows Control Panel.
I have mine set to white letters on blue background:
Control Panel > All Control Panel Items > Personalization
Click the link to set “Window Color”,
then the link at the bottom “Advanced appearance settings…”
… which brings up the “Window Color and Appearance” dialog.
Then change the “Item” dropdown control “Selected Items” and change the background color and text properties to suit your needs.
Any changes will affect ALL applications and system dialogs used by the current user account.